5 Strategies To Help You Deal With A Divorce Grief Relapse

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Instead of immediately beginning to worry that maybe you’re not really over your divorce and that you’re headed back to the misery of healing again, here are 5 things you can do to help you deal with an episode of divorce grief relapse:

  1. Recognize it for what it is.

    We all grow and change based on the experiences we have and our reactions to them. When you find yourself grieving again over your divorce after you thought you’d fully moved on, what you’re facing is an opportunity to grow and appreciate yourself more.

    It’s because you’re in a different place now that you’re able to heal something new. This new thing went undetected when you did all that hard work to get over your divorce.

    Now you can heal the nuances of grief that were originally pushed to the side.

    Now you can deal with your divorce grief relapse and release baggage you didn’t realize you had.

    And when you do, you’ll feel much lighter.
  2. Be patient with yourself.

    Just like with the grief you experienced when your marriage ended, you can’t force yourself to get over the grief you’re feeling now. You must choose to go through the hurt and find acceptance again.

    The good thing is that this time your entire life isn’t needing to be reorganized while you’re working to find acceptance. Now you can be patient with yourself and focus a bit better. Which will make learning the lesson waiting for you much easier.
  3. Take care of yourself.

    Dealing with grief takes effort. Remember how exhausted you felt when you were dealing with your divorce?

    Make sure you take care of the basics. Eat well. Drink enough water. Exercise. Get enough sleep. Doing so will help you to manage your life and give you the physical support you need to process your divorce grief relapse.
  4. Write about it.

    Research has shown that journaling about your emotions and how you interpret them can help you process them more quickly and lower your distress about them. This can be a powerful tool for you to more quickly come to a new level of acceptance about your divorce.
  5. Get support.

    But don’t think you have to do all this work on your own. There are plenty of other people who have been through divorce and a divorce grief relapse or more.

    And that’s the key. You want to talk to a friend, family member, or divorce professional who has been through this themselves. They’ll know what it’s like and have practical suggestions for how you can find your way through this blip of grief you’re experiencing.



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Dr. Karen Finn

Dr. Karen Finn

Divorce is the end of a marriage not the end of the world. Divorce coach, fashion enthusiast, writer, and most of all having fun making my 2nd marriage work.